Is there a way to tell if your husband hates you? “Hate” is such a strong word, isn’t it? But, sadly, you feel that your husband has grown to dislike you to such a point that he loathes you. That’s a tough emotional pill for any married woman to swallow. The nagging feeling that your husband just isn’t happy is difficult to shake. In the back of your mind you can’t help but wonder whether you’re misreading things, right? You’re hopeful that you are but still there are some signs present that indicate that the man you married just isn’t feeling any degree of love or affection for you anymore. Is there a definitive way to tell what’s going on in his heart without confronting him? There are actually a few subtle clues that may help you to clarify where the connection with your husband stands and whether your marriage really does have a future or not.
Here are a few signs that the love your husband once felt for you has disappeared:
He’s not affectionate anymore. A man in love wants to be affectionate with the woman he adores, be it a girlfriend or a wife. Men enjoy stealing kisses and they crave being close to the woman in their lives. If your husband never wants to kiss you and hand holding has become a very distant memory in your marriage, that’s a clear sign that his feelings for you have definitely shifted into a less complimentary place.
He’s very critical of you. Every relationship goes through periods of time where the couple can’t seem to agree on anything. In some marriages, those conflicts wade into personal waters when either the husband or the wife starts firing off hurtful insults. Your husband may have always been critical of you to a degree, but if he’s turned it up a notch and it’s waded into spiteful territory, that’s an indicator of what he’s no longer feeling for you. A man who desperately loves his wife will not intentionally say hurtful things to her regardless of how strained their marriage is.
He avoids spending time with you. Many women jump to the incorrect conclusion that their husband is having an affair when he starts working more. In reality, most men who are intentionally avoiding being with their wives aren’t cheating. They simply don’t know how to get through a few hours with a woman they’ve come to dislike. If you notice that your husband seems preoccupied with the idea of being away from home more, take that as a clear sign that he’s not finding any fulfillment within your marriage anymore.
He forgets important dates. You may chuckle at this sign that your husband doesn’t love you anymore, but take a moment to carefully consider it. Yes, some men are notoriously bad at remembering significant dates in their wife’s life or within their marriage, but there’s a point where it becomes less about memory issues and much more about intention. If your husband has always given you something on your birthday and this year you get absolutely nothing, that’s not about him being too busy or forgetful. He’s made a conscious decision not to acknowledge your birthday and that’s incredibly significant. The same is true if your wedding anniversary has passed without so much as a greeting card.
He spends more time with the children on his own. If your husband insists on spending more time alone with the children, that’s a very troubling, yet clear sign that the marriage is heading towards its end. Some men, who feel emotionally disconnected from their wives, will forge a new, and individual, relationship with their children. They do this in anticipation of a separation when they’ll be forced to parent alone at certain times. This is a situation that can be confusing for a woman who isn’t aware of her husband’s shift in feelings.
Recognizing some of the signs that your husband is no longer feeling as close to you as he once did can help you determine what you want your future to look like and therefore what your next step should be. Arming yourself with more knowledge, in terms of what your husband feels and expects, will help you move forward towards making the most informed and suitable choice for your own future and that of your children.
You don’t have to continue living in a marriage in which you feel alienated and unloved.
You can save your marriage and actually rebuild it so it’s stronger than it’s ever been before.